This blog is an open journal of my own accounts of successful and failed attempts at finding love, and the bits of advice I've acquired from those experiences.
I wanted to make this blog to show other Asian guys that, “yes, I'm having trouble too but there is hope” while simultaneously proving to non-Asian women that Asian guys do date outside their race. Be ignorant to the fact that America is stained with an antiquated bias against us; Be ignorant to the women that automatically assume that we're less of a man; Be ignorant to your own Asian parents that constantly insist that you date another Asian; Be ignorant to your own insecurities about being an Asian man in America and all the baggage that comes with it.
A lot of Asian guys have trouble dating women outside of their race. If you can learn to say “fuck off” to all these things and pursue what you feel and want — whether it's that cute Black chick working in your office or your German neighbor's daughter — you'll realize that the only thing holding you back is that you care about pointless expectations.
For a lot of non-Asian women, it can be a mystery as well.
We reached out to Ranier and asked if he'd be willing to do an interview for us and talk about interracial dating. The Love Life of an Asian Guy was originally a blog about my random thoughts on dating and relationships throughout college.
But the more I dated the more I became aware of my own ethnicity and how it affected who I could date, and what those women expected of me.
ONLY ASIAN GIRLS.” Can any of you Asian guys relate to this? Growing up they always emphasized to me that I shouldn't date anyone except Asian girls, and even more specifically, that I should only date Chinese girls.
Of course this made me just want to date other races even more.
But as I grew older, I realized that it was pretty difficult to date outside of my culture. I had little in common with Black or Mexican girls.
So I relegated myself to dating mostly Asian women.
Would this have been different had I been raised in a more accepting culture?
Would I be dating Caucasians and Mexicans and Blacks if I could have some kind of mindset shift? It's called The Love Life of an Asian Guy and it's written by a guy named Ranier.
Ranier has been blogging about relationships since the age of 15, and his blog has recently caught our attention at Amped Asia.
He's an Asian guy but he mostly dates non-Asian women.