Brandon was handsome, slim, in his early 30s, a pet lover, and financially stable—all qualities that I find very attractive.We sat at Palermo’s, an Italian restaurant in east Los Angeles known for its oversized plates of pasta and family-friendly decor.
You may have even seen it on some brave souls’ Tinder or Grindr profiles.
People with HIV can become undetectable after taking antiretroviral therapy (ART) to lower their “viral load,” or the amount of HIV in their blood—a person is undetectable when his or her viral load is so low that it cannot be detected by a blood test.
“Having an undetectable viral load greatly lowers your chance of transmitting the virus to …
And yet, too many gay men are still letting a positive status scare us away from meaningful romantic relationships.
Even before the bombshell study, previous research had found that Pr EP, which involves taking a blue pill called Truvada daily, reduces HIV infection by up to 92% when taken consistently, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
So we now have a highly effective method for preventing the transmission of HIV—but what about those who are already positive?
Brandon told me he was “undetectable.” If you’re a single man who has sex with other men, you’ve likely heard the term tossed around.
But it wasn’t broken, it was still there, deep down inside me.
I let HIV scare me, like it had countless times before that carb-loaded night.
It didn’t matter how knowledgeable I was about HIV—part of the attraction I had for Brandon died in that moment..
We also know that an HIV diagnosis isn’t the death sentence it was in the early days of the AIDS crisis.