The science of dating and matchmaking provides many fascinating illustrations and examples for the study and development of communications, personality, relationships and behaviour.
Some of these principles, and other specific findings relating to forming early successful relationships in dating, are illustrated in the summary below of the study carried out in April 2006 by Professor Richard Wiseman of the University of Hertfordshire, as part of the 2006 Edinburgh International Science Festival. I say 'in essence' because I do not suggest that at your next business meeting you should ask the other person "What is your favourite pizza topping?
These lessons are in essence transferable to all relationships and one-to-one meetings, aside from providing many useful dating pointers. " The 'essence' here is the principle of asking interesting relevant questions as a basis of creating rapport.
Preliminary results from the first large-scale speed dating experiment have shown that women make up their minds about potential partners much faster than men, and revealed the best type of chat-up lines.
The study, conducted on Sunday 9th April 2006 by Professor Richard Wiseman (University of Hertfordshire) at the Edinburgh International Science Festival, involved 100 members of the public taking part in five-hundred 'speed dates'.
An important principle is that people enjoy and respond being given the opportunity to talk about themselves, especially from a perspective that interests them and enables them to express themselves with some passion and enthusiasm.
An ability to listen and show genuine understanding, is also vital to forming rapport early in discussions, which again applies to all communications, not just to flirting and dating.
Dating studies also confirm that people form impressions extremely quickly when meeting others for the first time: initial impressions are crucial, which applies to all 'first meetings', whether in dating, business, or any other situation.
Again understanding body language is very helpful in creating positive first impressions.
During the event, participants rated the attractiveness of their dates and indicated whether they would like to meet that person again.