You know the old saying about first impressions, and how you only get one chance to make them? When you’re logged onto Match, furtively scrolling through hundreds of girls’ profiles, you probably don’t spend a lot of time forming that first opinion.
In fact, data shows both men and women will form an impression within one tenth of a second of glancing at a stranger’s face in a photograph.
You can have the sexiest, most appealing dating photo in the world, but tacking a horrible username on it has roughly the same effect as that iceberg had on the Titanic.
Along those same lines, don’t pick a name that sounds gross, icky, or just plain unappealing , like these guys did: Mr_Sluggo (he hates salty food! ), IDon’t Have Ebola (don’t link your profile with disease in her mind) or Primate1967 (who wants to date a monkey? File this under obvious, but a brief glance through my most recent Ok Cupid matches made me realize I have to point it out: stay away from violent words when picking a name.
Online dating is scary enough for a woman, don’t creep her out before you’ve even messaged her. The name you choose should look like you put some actual thought into it.
Nothing about a random string of numbers and letters, like “DR42785”, communicates that you have brains and creativity to spare.
In online dating, first impressions might be your only chance.
To put it in perspective, pretend you’re a young, hot woman (you know, the kind you want to date).
Now imagine opening your inbox, which is flooded with hundreds of messages.
Are you going to click on the one from “Asstazztick”? A strong username will increase your response rate from women, while a weak one will lump you in with the pile of other losers she’s already forgotten about.
After all, an uncreative, slapped together username like “John123” subconsciously tells her you don’t take online dating seriously, you’re unimaginative, and you’re such a slug you can’t be bothered to spend a few minutes trying to impress the online dating multitudes (and specifically, her.)Don’t be that guy.
When choosing a username, avoid sounding desperate, like Lifetime Love4U, fit4another, or lookin2committ.