And that meant no trying to present some hyped-up, enthusiastic dater, all caps image of myself.
Armed with a Diet Coke and a new resolve, I was actually signing up for online dating, something I hadn’t done in three years.
And not because I was in a relationship during that time, but because for the most part I wasn’t dating, first by default and later having decided to take a deliberate break.
After a long dating hiatus, when January rolled around this year I finally felt like I was ready to dive back into the dating pool.
My first thought when contemplating dating was, because in the past I’d tried JDate, e Harmony, Chemistry, Match, and Nerve, all to great disappointment and sometimes even despair.
My experience with online dating thus far had been that the guys I liked didn’t like me back, and the guys who did like me made me want to flee the state and join the Dating Protection Program.
Instead of going the online dating route, I’d planned to simply shift my energy. So I thought, if I was serious about coming out of my dating hiatus, I was going to have to take some concrete steps to make it official.I didn’t want to actually anything or take actions to get dates, I just wanted to be energetically open to dating, and hope that the Universe, and some compatible guys therein, would sense that and respond, by way of asking me out. It seems like everyone who’s single and online dating is on Ok Cupid, and I hadn’t tried it before so didn’t have any old negative associations with it, plus it’s free! Much of that was genuine, but I also have to confess to at times having typed, “Cheerful, coffee-drinking yogini who loves to laugh looking for intellectual, playful man to share in the adventures of life!And the site itself has a kind of fun, light, whimsical personality, which is the attitude I want to adopt towards dating this time around. ” through tears, driven to online dating by a devastating breakup and the fear that I’d be alone forever.Ready to take the next step, or any step at all, I decided that this site would be my foray back into online dating. Searching for some inspiration, I looked through my old online dating profiles, hoping I could just copy and paste. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve dropped down from the land of all caps, exclamation points, and italics, into a deeper, more grounded place.But reading through paragraphs I’d written about myself four, five, and six years ago, I cringed, knowing I had come a long way and a lot of those words no longer rang true. I’ve lost some of my relentlessly cheerful optimism, and gained hard-won self-acceptance, authenticity, and wisdom.In my old dating profiles, I was , exclamation points!!! So while some of what I’d written in my old online dating profiles still applied, I decided to start from scratch and write something that truly reflected who and where I am in my life right now.