She uses this opportunity to complain about both men and women from China and abroad, implicating everyone for their part in contributing to her plight.
Incapable of repelling sexual advances due to being “inhibited about their sexuality” and a “submissive nature in the bedroom”, Stephanie describes Chinese women as Shanghai’s renewable resource that keeps replenishing the carnal needs of its dating pool, “ensuring that most Western men here are never short on sex”.
If part of the problem is that Chinese women aren’t able to say “no”, the other half is that Chinese men aren’t able to ask the question.
Stephanie describes Chinese men as “effeminate” and “small-sized” people who don’t have the capability to have a relationship with a foreign woman.
“If anything, [foreign women are] considered too dominant, turning the majority of them off with our independent personalities and strong opinions,” she wrote. Stephanie writes that Chinese men are interested in “engaging us in one night stands or brief flings, but then cutting things off abruptly when it’s time for the relationship to move into serious territory.” Despite her condescending view of Chinese men, Stephanie hopes to have a relationship with a Chinese man in Shanghai, warning them to “watch out because here I come!
And even if a female expat is able to find a Chinese man for a romantic relationship, her “Mr. ” And yet, it seems what Stephanie truly desires aren’t arms to hold her during cold nights.
She is looking for an end to the status quo that has marginalized expat women in Shanghai: In turn, it would also be interesting to watch Western men finally get a reality check and discover that most of them are hardly “God’s gift to women” and could never get this much action back in their home countries.
Perhaps Stephanie needs to raise the plight of expat women in China by taking expat men down a peg.
For a restless soul looking for answers, China can serve as another another rung up the corporate ladder or a fresh start.
One thing it’s not, according to one female expat, is an ideal place for a western woman to find romance.
Global Times recently published an article written by a “Stephanie N.” Titled “Single foreign females in China don’t have it easy“, Stephanie complains that circumstances are tough for her and other foreign women when it comes to finding love in Shanghai, saying that the “odds are simply against us” and calling the entire experience “bittersweet”.
No one is spared in Stephanie’s deconstruction of the Wild West of relationships that is Shanghai.