It's common knowledge that guys typically lag significantly behind women when it comes to acting their age, so is raising the dating age bar really that bad of an idea? Here are 11 reasons why: He's more likely to be responsible, and not in the “I ate real food instead of cereal for dinner” kind of way. I admit, initially this could seem like a downfall, but just remember, you're dating him — not his children. It's important to realize that by having children, he knows how to take care of and think about other people. Aside from the whole divorce thing, he's likely to have his life together (and if he doesn't, run).Rather, he is responsible not only for himself, but also for others. He probably has a good job, since odds are, he's been there a while. Your life may be in a constant state of crazy and your mind may usually run in 12 different directions, but his stability is refreshing and helps to keep you balanced amidst the chaos of your world.Maybe in more ways than one, but he definitely has real-world experience and the benefit of the 20/20 hindsight vision you won't have for years.
Well, you could find a younger guy who went through a 2004 Britney Spears-style wedding, but that would just be weird.
There's also the possibility of meeting a guy who got married as a child (18-25), but got divorced by 30.
Let's give him the benefit of the doubt and say he learned from that mistake, but he's still not in the category of divorced guys we're talking about here.
So, yes, the divorced guy you should date is oldbut that's actually one of his finer qualities — it means that he’s more likely a man. Without the pressure of all that, there's a lot more time and room in a relationship to actually be in the moment and enjoy getting to know one another without feeling preoccupied by future expectations. He has a couch instead of a futon, there's more than beer in his fridge and you aren't likely to have to forage through his bathroom in search of something that resembles toilet paper.
With the higher likelihood that he has children to support and spend time with or a time-consuming job, his other obligations give you time for yourself.
The biggest mistake in new relationships is immediately going from first date to inseparable and dedicating all of your time and energy to this single person.
When the guy you're dating has other responsibilities, it allows for the perfect balance to grow a healthy relationship.
Because he has other obligations, he puts more emphasis on the time you do spend together.
He appreciates your company and enjoys doing engaging and entertaining things with you, which helps to build your connection and delay the relationship plateau of sweatpants and Netflix binging. It's only natural for him to revert back to his pre-marriage days by wanting to go out and enjoy his newfound freedom.
You won't be stuck at home, on his real couch, watching SVU reruns.
Instead, you’ll enjoy all the perks of dating an older guy, while still doing the things a 20-something likes to do.