Thus, a narcissist may be a model employee and pursue a career path over decades even as he cheats on his wife andfritters their savings away. Narcissists feel superior and important and so entitled to be above the law and to engage in behaviorsthat are frowned upon and considered socially unacceptable in others.
The somatic narcissist uses sex to "conquer" and "secure" new sources of narcissistic supply.
Consequently, the somatic rarely gets emotionally-involved with his "targets".
His is a mechanical act, devoid of intimacy and commitment.
Narcissists cheat on their spouses, commit adultery and have extramarital affairs and liaisons for a variety of reasons which reflect disparate psychodynamic processes: 1. Narcissists cheat on their spouses, commit adultery and have extramarital affairs and liaisons for a variety of reasons which reflect disparate psychodynamic processes: 1.
In the quest for narcissistic supply, the somatic narcissist resorts to serial sexual conquests. Narcissists are easily bored (they have a low boredom threshold) and they have a low tolerance for boredom.
Sexual dalliances alleviate this nagging and frustrating ennui. Narcissists maintain an island and focus of stability in their life, but all the other dimensions of their existence are chaotic, unstable,and unpredictable.
This "twister" formation serves many emotional needs which I expound upon elsewhere.
This narcissistic injury leads him to rebel and reassert his superiority and specialness by maintaining extramarital affairs. To reassert control, the narcissist initiates other relationships in which he dictates the terms of engagement (love affairs). Adultery is an excellent tool in the attempt to retard intimacy and resort to a less threatening mode of interaction.
Broadly speaking, there are two types of narcissists, loosely corresponding to the two categories mentioned in the question: the somatic narcissist and the cerebral narcissist. They hold women in contempt, they loathe and fear them.