Then there's the lack of faith in the abundance of the universe - the anxious sense of scarcity that propels us to "make things happen," instead of letting them unfold. It's uncanny how the women I coach all tend to commit the same mistakes (five of which I've outlined below).Moreover, correcting the errors of your ways can be done with a bit of practice.To avoid repeating the same mistakes over and over again, first you've got to recognize them.
"We all make mistakes." Nowhere is the cliché more apt than when it comes to relationships.
As a dating coach I've been privileged to help other women recognize and break free of self-defeating patterns and habits that have kept them from realizing the relationship of their dreams.
The most common dating mistakes often spring from underlying issues of self-esteem (think too little of yourself, and you'll settle for less-than-ideal situations - think too much of yourself, and you believe bad behavior is absolved by your sheer fabulousness).
More often, dating doozies result from failure to recognize - or simply accept - the different ways men and women approach relationships.
It may go against conventional dating advice, which encourages women to flirt and even strike up a conversation.
While there are always exceptions, the women I coach who are struggling with boyfriends who won't commit or husbands who ignore them almost invariably made the first contact.
A man may date and even marry a woman who approached him first, but there will likely be consequences later on..he approaches the girl he really wants. Quick Fix: If you talked him first or even asked him out, you can try to restore some of the feminine mystique and you forfeited as the initiator by being a bit more elusive - a little less available, a little more mysterious.
If he's truly smitten by you, he'll rise to the challenge and cherish you more.
If not, then let him float away now, before he wastes more of your time and ends up breaking your heart. Look approachable and friendly - that's all the encouragement your future (adoring) husband needs. You've just met the guy and you're telling him about the back-stabber in your office, the fight you had with your sister, the details of your recent root canal. During the first few dates, the man is still essentially a stranger.
Women who share intimate details of their lives and emotions too soon come across as desperate and neurotic.
Quick Fix: Recognize that the more you talk about yourself, the less you'll be listening and observing whether he is right for you.