"After all, when the Scriptures were written, the people during that time got married when they were teens; so they didn't have to struggle with sexual temptation like we do now." In response to Rob's argument, Cindy found Scriptures about sexual purity and showed them to him. After all, we can just pick and choose the parts of Scripture that we want to believe on sexual purity, right? For example, if sex before marriage is okay because people supposedly can't control themselves, then it must be okay to engage in pornography, too, right?
When Cindy read 1 Corinthians 6:9, 2 Corinthians , Galatians , Hebrews 13:4 and Deuteronomy -28, all which condemn sex before marriage, she asked Rob, "Are these Scriptures relevant to today? After all, the temptation to watch and participate in porn abounds like it didn't in Bible times.
When Cindy met Rob, she knew that even though he attended church, he didn't share her convictions about premarital sex.
Rob thought it was OK—and even good for dating couples to engage in—and Cindy believed it was wrong from a Christian perspective.
As their friendship progressed, Cindy and Rob's opposing viewpoints caused some hot debates.
It also forced them both to take a second look at their convictions.
Additionally, if scriptures in the Bible became untrue because people can't control their desires, then we'd also have to cut out the commandments on stealing, lying, cheating and having affairs.
Sure enough, there are holes in Rob's sex-before-marriage theology, just like there would be holes in his Bible if Cindy cut it up.During their discussions about premarital sex, Rob insisted that it was good to engage in sex with a dating partner because "it brings you closer." Cindy believes that this is true, and not true.As a result, Cindy developed a deeper understanding of truth, and Rob was forced to face the lies he'd always believed.If you're like Cindy or Rob, and you've taken a stand for (or against) premarital sex, but you're not sure why, here are some things to consider.Like many singles, Rob thinks the Scriptures on sexual purity are outdated and archaic. "Because I think we should cut those Scriptures out."Those parts of the Bible aren't relevant to today," he told Cindy. After all, if they're not true because people can't control their desires, why not completely eliminate them? Crazy or not, Cindy had made her point—there are holes in Rob's it's-not-true-because-people-can't-control-their-desires theology. Because, if his beliefs were based on truth, they would stand up in every circumstance, but they don't.