This can leave INFJs feeling like there is no ready outlet for their wisdom and that no one really understands their essential worth or value.
So if and when they happen upon a likeminded individual, one who values and eagerly partakes in the INFJs’ inner life, it can feel like a godsend.
In their friends, as well as their romantic partners, they seek intelligence (both intellectual and emotional), honesty, openness, and authenticity.
Rather, INFJs seek high quality, in-depth relationships.
And while forming quick friendships and extensive connections may be the goal for some extraverts, for INFJs, this is not the point at all.
Due to their extraversion of Feeling (Fe), they can readily ingratiate themselves to others.
A common assumption among males is that all females have similar perspectives on romance.
This is particularly off the mark with respect to female INFJs.
“Canned romance,” such as receiving the same bouquet of flowers every year come Valentine’s day, is apt to mean little to INFJs, who are quick to differentiate the “real and authentic” from the “fake and contrived.” For INFJs, romance is cultivated on a daily basis through open communication and authentic action.
Their ideal partner would take seriously the issue of personal growth and development—moral, spiritual, emotional, and psychological.
Despite their status as introverts, there is little INFJs value more than quality conversation.
They relish the chance to share their wisdom, theories, and insights.
Unfortunately, they often find that most people (especially S types) fail to fully comprehend or appreciate their theories and insights.