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In so many cases, Egyptian men marry because they found “the suitable” wife.
It is the easiest recipe for marriage failure or he marries a woman because he has a crush on her or just being infatuated by her but not because he experienced true love.
This “suitable” word just kills me and is capable of killing any marriage.
Men pretend to spend money but in fact women do too because life is getting so expensive. The sister is the second in command in terms of annoying the would-be-wife/fiancé or current wife.
It is very rare to find an Egyptian man who knows how to cook and if he does after he gets married this habit will stop because his wife will cook. The latter is considered the enemy who wants to brainwash the son for her own interest.
The mother-son relationship in Egypt is a bit strange at least from my own standards and sometimes scary.
Egyptian mothers make sure that their sons are so dependent on them and in so many instances she does not give them the chance to be independent even if there are chances to be an independent individual to continue manipulating them forever.
I do not know why we had to go through this topic but we did. My friend believes that marrying a western guy is salvage from some many pains. She told me no matter how he pretends to be liberal or progressive he is, there is a point when he starts to talk in this language “you know what this shirt is a bit open”, “I think your skirt is a bit short”, “I believe your wearing too much make up, there is no need for make up”, “do you have to waste all this time styling your hair every time we go out”.
She believes that I became so neutral because I do not live in Cairo and that I forgot about all the vices of Egyptian men and that she will take the opportunity to wake me up and remind me again of the reality. Ok here are some of what we went through and tried to compare it to western guys.
Sharing responsibility is not an issue to be discussed.
In Egypt, poor women have to do everything; cook, do the dishes, raise the kids, help them with the homework, go to work, get the groceries, laundry, plan vacations…etc. A mother giving up her son to another woman is like giving up a diamond stone even if he is a straw man.