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As this behavior progresses the situation will worsen, and the abuser may assume all control of finances or prevent the victim from coming and going freely.
A victim often has known or dated the abuser for a brief period of time before getting engaged or living together.
The abuser will pressure the victim to commit to the relationship.
A victim may be made to feel guilty for wanting to slow the pace or end the relationship.
An abuser will attempt to isolate the victim by severing the victim's ties to outside support and resources.
The batterer will accuse the victim's friends and family of being "trouble makers." The abuser may block the victim's access to use of a vehicle, work, or telephone service in the home.
An abuser will blame others for all problems or for the abuser's own shortcomings.
At the start of the relationship, an abuser will equate jealously with love.
The abuser will question the victim about who the victim talks to, accuse the victim of flirting, or become jealous of time spent with others.
The abuser may call the victim frequently during the day, drop by unexpectedly, refuse to let the victim work, check the car mileage, or ask friends to watch the victim.
In the beginning an abuser will attribute controlling behavior to concern for the victim (for example, the victim's safety or decision-making skills).